Last spring I heard a woman named Cynthia Jurs speak. She said a lot of interesting and important things during her talk, but what stood out to me most was the way she spoke of “acting from the subtle” and how important it can be to stop and breathe in the midst of the chaos that seems to punctuate our world more than we want it to. She spoke of focusing on the space that is in between where we are and where we want to go. She said it’s that ‘in between’ space that allows new things to come into being. From that space we can learn to recognize our gifts, and once we’ve recognized them, we can offer those gifts out into our communities, our workplaces, and our families. She reminded us that it is from our gifts – those gifts that are unique to our own being — that we can affect our life situation in the deepest way and contribute to the healing of the world. She reminded us that due to the nature of “in between” space, we all have a different version of what’s true for us, but that we can still support each other despite being on differing paths. Continue reading “The Space Between”
The first person I called after four weeks of training to be a corporate health coach was a gentleman named *Charlie. The appointment was at 7pm on a Tuesday in April, and I had literally all day to prepare and worry about how it would go. When the witching hour finally rolled around, I dialed the phone, had my paper at the ready to take notes and half hoped that he wouldn’t answer. He did answer, and at the end of the conversation, he had a goal to play basketball once a week and eat one less serving of pasta when spaghetti was on the table for dinner. (No easy feat when one is Italian and spaghetti rules the meal plan.) And I knew that he had a six year old daughter going through treatment for leukemia and that he felt powerless in the face of something so important that was outside of his control. In twenty minutes I learned what made this person who I’d probably never meet get up in the morning and what drove him to take care of himself. I learned about some of his challenges, and I learned of his struggles to stay on track. I asked him what his vision of a healthy life was, and he told me it was to be his best self so he could give his daughter the dad she deserved. Most of his story I’ll never know, and he didn’t have to tell me the parts that he did. But he chose to share, and I chose to listen, and now our stories will forever be intertwined. Continue reading “Weaving With Invisible Thread”
When was the last time you felt successful? Perhaps it was graduation from college. High school? When you landed your first “real” job? Or got a promotion? Or a raise? Or perhaps that time you won the 100 meter hurdles at the state meet. Maybe when you published your book? When you finished the series and every book was a best seller? Maybe when you got the lead role in a play. Or in a movie. Or when you got a great advance or contract. Or perhaps when you heard your parent say, “I’m proud of you.” Or when you received public acknowledgement that you are a person of value to the company. Maybe it was when someone noticed you’d lost 30 pounds. Or cleared up your skin, or got some new clothes. Maybe the last time you felt successful was when when you got a gold star on an assignment in fifth grade, or scored a basket in a junior high pick-up game.
Or maybe you are still waiting for that successful feeling because success has seemingly eluded you so far. Maybe you think that success just isn’t in the cards. That feeling of success can be awfully slippery. It can show up at your door like the popular guy that everyone wants to date, make you feel like a princess for a week and then disappear in a cloud of exhaust when you don’t follow the script or when you stop paying attention to what matters to you. The quest toward “feeling successful” can leave you wondering where your life went when you were looking around the corner for something else. Continue reading “Success Comes Quietly”
If we look at the world with a love of life, the world will reveal its beauty to us.
To be successful, happy and satisfied with our work life, we need to find our deepest calling – the calling that we can deem our “vocation” – that is to say, the work that we feel designed to undertake, and the work that fully aligns with our values. We put a large portion of our life energy into our work each and every day when we show up to complete our task list, make our phone calls, give our sales pitches and attend our meetings. Truly finding one’s “vocation” is an exploration of what it means to seek beauty and satisfaction in our work life and in the presence we bring to what we are called to do.
What do you need to be successful in your current role? What role would you love to be in or work toward? How do you stay centered on your values when changes occur? What makes your job satisfying? What do you need more of? Less of? Where is the beauty in your career path, and how can you build on the foundation that you already have? What choices are you making, and how are they supporting who you truly are? How can you bring your whole self to work every single day and let your unique set of traits support your success?
These questions are just a few that can be explored as you continue toward embodying your abundance in every area of your life.
What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.