I started re-reading Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ book Women Who Run With the Wolves about a month ago. The very short synopsis is that it’s a conglomeration of ancient folk stories, myths and fairy tales from all over the world that illustrate the importance of holding onto the wild is present in all women (and men). The book is about the powerful force, filled with good instincts, passionate creativity, and ageless knowing that is the ‘Wild Woman’, the energy that represents the instinctual nature of women.
Reading this book is making me ask questions of my own story and the stories that dictate my way of being in my family, in my community and in the world. Some of these stories are mine. Some of them are not. Some of them are stories that have the potential to move me further into my own story, the one that is best suited to how I want to show up in life. And some of them are stories that I have let overshadow my own, even though they don’t serve what I need and have the potential to create pain and struggle.
Dr. Estes writes:
The way to maintain one’s connection to the wild is to ask yourself what it is that YOU want. One of the most important discriminations we can make in this matter is the difference between things that beckon to us and things that call from our souls.
So today I claim the stories that call from my soul. I claim the stories that invite peace. I claim the stories that create a more beautiful world. I claim the wild part of myself that wants to lead the way into living from the soul. I claim the right to choose the things that call instead of the things that beckon. I claim the clarity that listening to the deep and quiet parts of myself can offer. And I put aside the stories of anxiety, of fear, of constriction. I put aside the stories that tempt me into living in a way that is not consistent with what I value. I put aside the stories of want and I pick up the stories of need.
What story are you in right now? Ask yourself one question, and then listen to your soul’s advice when your intuition wants to speak:
Is the story yours?
If your answer is yes, own it.
If you answer is no, step out of it.
It is certainly not as simple as that. But acknowledging the story that is yours to fulfill is the first step into living true to yourself. It’s what has to happen in order to build the foundation for a beautiful way of being in the world that is full of the oneness that gives everything life.
Dr. Estes goes on to say that “Nature does not ask permission.” She’s right, of course. Nature just is, authentically and without apologies. So let us take the cue from mother nature herself and stop asking for permission to be. Own your stories. Find your door. Heed your wild calling.
The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.